Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Just10 - week 5

One of our Kidz Klub mums made the front page of the Just10 news sheet this week.
Click on the image to read Karin's story...

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Before adopting kids - 15 quick training sessions - Part 1

On our last assessment visit, our social worker left us with 15 quick training sessions to undertake....

I share the first of the sessions here with you...

Session 1
Go to the supermarket. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office.
Go home.
Pick up a newspaper.
Read it for the last time.

Session 2
Before you adopt your children, find a couple who already are parents and advise them how to improve:
1. their methods of discipline
2. their lack of patience
3. their appalling low tolerance levels
4 their practice of allowing their children to run wild
5. their child's sleeping habits, toilet training, table manners and overall behaviour
Enjoy it.
It will be the last time in your life that you will have all the answers.

Session 3
To discover how nights will feel...
1. Walk around the living room from 5pm to 10pm carrying a wet bag of old lentil soup weighing 6kg, with a radio tuned to static playing loudly
2. At 10pm, put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight and go to sleep
3. Get up at midnight and walk the bag of lentil soup round the living room until 1am
4. Set the alarm for 3am.
5. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2am and make a cup of tea
6. Go to bed at 2.45am.
7. Sing songs in the dark until 4am.
8. Get up. Make breakfast.
Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

Session 4
Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems.
1. Buy a live octopus and a small bag made of loose mesh.
2 Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out.
Time allowed for this - all morning.

Session 5
Forget the BMW and buy a practical 5-door saloon or people carrier. And don't think you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that.
1. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there.
2. Get a coin. Insert it in the CD player.
3. Take a family-sized packet of chocolate biscuits and mash them into the back seat.
4. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car. There. Perfect!

Session 6
Get ready to go out.
1. Wait outside the bathroom for half an hour
2. Go out the front door
3. Come in again
4. Go out
5. Come back in
6. Go out again
7. Walk down the front driveway
8. Walk back up it
9. Walk down it again
10. Walk very slowly down the road for 5 minutes
11. Stop, inspect minutely, and ask at least 6 questions about, every piece of used chewing gum, dirty tissue and dead insect along the way
12. Retrace your steps
13. Scream that you have had as much as you can stand until the neighbours come out and stare at you
14. Give up and go back into the house
You are just about ready to try taking a small child for a walk.

Session 7
Repeat everything at least 100 times.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Walk the path I've paved for you

My good friend, TheWeeScottie, has penned a poem...

‘Walk the path’, my saviour said,
‘The one I’ve paved for you
And you will see the wonderous things
I’ve laid in store for you’

You can read the rest here.
Inspired words, I feel, in these uncertain times.

Garry's coming to Just10

Garry Brotherston is coming to tell his story next week at Just10 in Gateshead and Stockton...
...a journey from imprisonment and condemnation to grace and freedom in Christ!

It should be another fantastic night - with J John explaining the 5th commandment - and talking about controlling our anger.

Let's pray that the many thousands attending would hear God speak to them in a new and powerful way through Garry's and J John's words...

Here's one of Garry's songs - powerful words.


Thursday, May 08, 2008

Roll on 10 July

Hurrah!

Whooopee!

Woo-hoooo!

Much jumping up and down, waving of arms and shouting!

Our home assessment is complete!
We saw our social worker this evening for the last time (well, last time for a few weeks!). He's visited and spoken to all our referees. He's seen us on at least 12 occasions. Hours and hours. He's completed our assessment and just needs to write it all up now.

And he's so positive. He talks about there being no 'contra-indications' and of us having a very strong application... Mrs D thinks he means we're marvellous!

Our application will go to the adoption panel on 10 July, all being well.
We'll go too.
By 5pm on 10 July, we should be approved as adopters!

Then the matching begins. The social worker's already keeping his eye out and ear to the ground (sounds a bit painful to do both at the same time!), and he's even mentioned a family in the north-east that may be a possible match...

It's all starting to get very real and very scary!
We know that God knows our children, even though we don't - he knows who they are, where they are and how they are... he knows what they like and don't like... and he's looking after them, preparing them to come and live with us...

Amazing, perplexing, intriguing, and truly awesome, come to think about it!

I'm still here!

Apologies to all of you who thought I'd perhaps dropped off the face of the planet...
No, I'm still very much here, alive and well - there just doesn't seem to be enough time in each day for everything that needs to be done!

We had a fantastic week away in Derbyshire in the middle of April with a great friend of old, and his new wife (great friend of not-so-old!). The sun shone and then the hailstones came and then the sunshine again, followed by snow, then sun, then rain... you get the picture! But lots of good walks with the doglet, and lots of fun by the fire in the evenings with a glass of wine and some silly games!

Just10 has started now -taking up another of our evenings each week - but so worthwhile - J John is such an inspirational speaker - presenting the 10 commandments in such relevant ways for today... Along with the 5000 other people in the canvas cathedral each week, two of our KidzKlub mums have been coming along and both have made commitments - and we're only 3 weeks in!

Along with all of that, we've been meeting with our social worker once or twice a week to complete our home assessment...

I hope that things will calm down a bit for the next few weeks, so a more normal blogging service should be restored!

Sunday, April 06, 2008

April showers


Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow....

Monday, March 31, 2008

God-daughter number one is one

Mrs D and I had a lovely time yesterday afternoon with our wonderful god-daughter, Alice, celebrating the first anniversary of her birth.

Despite her feeling poorly, she did manage to open her pressies (courtesy of Calpol) before needing to go to sleep... And we all enjoyed the fantastic birthday carrot-cake.

I fear that her parents may soon be needing the Calpol to banish the headaches induced by Alice's new drum kit...

Sunday, March 16, 2008

A grand weekend

We've just said goodbye to our three fabulous godsons, having had them to stay for the weekend, while their mum and dad went to climb something high in the Lake District and indulge in some well deserved them-time...

We had the boys over last summer, but it was good to have them at a weekend so I could spend more time with them as well as Mrs D.

We had a fab time visiting seven stories (Peter Rabbit and Horrid Henry, amongst others), and then to the play park... We had to be home for late afternoon, as Mr SW was coming to see us with children.... Turned out the boys were so tired after our afternoon out that they were really chilled... so Mr SW saw me reading with them (The smartest giant in town - fab book), and then sat with us while we had dinner. Things seemed to go OK, and Mr SW said that we seemed to be the kind of people who were really relaxed about doing stuff with children, and took things in our stride - so that was positive!

It was nice to take them to church this morning - though interesting to see a service through small peoples' eyes... the littlest one started singing 'postman pat postman pat postman pat cat cat cat cat' during the prayers, and the middle one started a burping competition during the all-age comunion!! Children and church services, eh! Wonderful!

The boys' mum and dad returned at lunchtime to much joy...
It was great to have the boys with us for the weekend - but nice to have some quiet after they left... though the place seems strangely empty without them!

Thursday, March 06, 2008

46 days to go

46 days and counting...


Just:10 is coming...

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Whirlpools, eagles and fantastic views

Mrs D and I returned on Wednesday from a wonderful few days in Argyll - staying beside Loch Melfort with my parental parents - we used to go there every October holiday, but I've never known such fantastic weather!

We walked and took in views north over Seil towards Mull, and south towards Scarba, the Garvellachs and Jura.

We ventured out on the sea from Craobh Haven on Farsain with Duncan, our skipper and wildlife expert, for a circumnavigation of Scarba.

Apart from the currents, waves and whirlpools of the Corryvreckan, a highlight must have been seeing a couple of golden eagles soaring high overhead. Then later we saw sea eagles - one flew past us, landing in a tree on Scarba - this was joined by another, and then we spotted a third in a different tree, higher up the hillside. An unforgettable sight!

A selection of photos...


Corryvreckan - standing wave


Corryvreckan looking south towards Jura


Looking north towards Seil and Mull


Looking south towards Seil, Scarba and the Garvellachs


Sunset over Loch Melfort

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Druridge Bay

We love this place...
It was lovely to visit again, this time with two wonderful friends - Roz and Mark, who came up to the northeast for the weekend. Mind you, I don't think I've ever seen anyone as excited at seeing the sea as Roz was!


Cloud swirls at dusk


Where has all the sand gone? Highest tide I've seen here...


Heelan coo!

Winner!


Saturday, February 09, 2008

Thank you Facebook

I had my first Facebook reunion on Thursday evening. A friend I had lost touch with about 10 years ago asked to be my Facebook friend a few months ago... And then I had a note to say he'd be in Newcastle to visit his parents this week...

It was great to meet up again - catch up on 10 years, talk about old friends, new families, hopes for the future... An unexpected joy in the middle of a really busy week.

Thank you Maik and thank you Facebook.

What a week

D'you ever have those weeks when the first time you sit down is Saturday morning?
We've just had one!

Nothing particular has made it like that - just lots of little things all contributing to one huge mountain...

Late Monday afternoon our social worker (I think we'll have to call him 'Mr W' on here) arrived for the first of our assessment meetings. It went well. We showed him round the house. He asked us some stuff about us, gave us some stuff to read. One in particular has really made me think... lots to think about... We also have some forms to complete - one for doglet (has she ever bitten anyone, what is her temperament, does she like children,...), one for health and safety (have we got saftey glass in the windows, blind cords within reach, fixed fireguard, rusty car at the bottom of the garden...), and one to fill in with our history from birth to now - everything which has had an impact on us, in chronological order... that'll take some time methinks!

We've been promised more to do, but that hasn't yet arrived (email problems perhaps?). Next meeting is booked in for 21st February.

Mr W is really keen for the process to go as quickly as it can, obviously not jeapordising on quality of the assessment - so we're glad about that. His best esttimate is that we'll be going to Panel for approval in June, so the assessment will need to be completed by the beginning of May.

He wants to see us with children, how we interact with each other, whether we get onto their level. I think we'll have to borrow some of our god children for an afternoon... But only if they're going to behave (don't they always!?)

Mrs D wants to get Mr W to come to Kidz Klub as well - not sure he's ready to have green custard thrown over him, mind you!

Sunday, February 03, 2008

London

Mrs D and I are just back from a fantastic 36 hours in London, courtesy of some free return 1st class tickets on National Express East Coast.


Lunch at Covent Garden with string quintet...

...then off to see Billy Elliot at the Victoria Palace Theatre - the way the show manages to capture the grit of the miners' strike and 1980's Co Durham, with the magic of a boy's dreams and ambitions is fantastic... the language is unsanitised, but adds to the reality.

Dinner at a lovely little restaurant in Smithfield - special thanks to our waitress who saved me from a fate worse than sweetbreads! One of the other waiters had helped us with some of the menu items (all written in French), and wrongly told us that rognons de veaux were veal steaks... how wrong he was! I'm still reeling from the shock of what might have been on my plate!


A short after dinner stroll along the Thames near our hotel at London Bridge.


Sunday morning after breakfast - and onto the river heading east towards Greenwich on the river boat from London Bridge...


Tower Bridge, looking west towards the city


The Traitors' Gate hasn't been used for a while...


The Old Royal Naval College, Greenwich


The structure formerly known as the Millennium Dome (now the O2 arena), with Canary Wharf in the background


The roof of the Millennium Dome

Then inside the dome to see 3000 year old treasures from the tomb of King Tutankhamun and some of the other Egyptian kings and queens - an amazing exhibition... I couldn't quite believe that the stuff was so old - much of it looked like it was made yesterday, particularly the wooden items... Well worth the trip if you can - it runs till August.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

First social worker visit

Our first meeting with Mr S-W will be on Monday afternoon...
The first of many, no doubt!

Now I'm 25!

Well, 25 not counting Saturdays and Sundays! It sounds much better than the alternative halfway to my three score years and ten, don't you think?

I had a lovely day yesterday, despite having to go to work! The day started with Mrs D getting up early and bringing me my presents in bed! A huge box covered in holographic blue paper turned out to be an espresso machine...! Fantastic!

Breakfast was cooked for me (pancakes and butterscotch sauce) but alas there was no time to try an espresso... work beckoned!

I got home early for an espresso. Running it with just water to flush the system, working out how to get the coffee holder attached to the machine.... then all was ready! A fabulous cup of espresso with just the right amount of froth on top...

The evening turned out somewhat differently to how I had imagined... Mrs D had, unbeknownst to me, arranged for almost the entire contingent of our housegroup to come round for dinner... I half thought something was up when I was banished to the sitting room and told in no uncertain terms to stay there...

The first I knew of the impending dinner party was when the doorbell rang - and the first of many people arrived carrying various bottles, salads, cakes, cards and presents!

A lovely surprise! Thank you Mrs D...

Thursday, January 24, 2008

We have a social worker!

If you'd told me a year ago that today I would be rejoicing over the allocation of a social worker, I'd most probably have laughed you out of town.... but there you go... the adoption journey seems to have a habit of changing our perspective on things!

Today I am rejoicing! DFW phoned today and told us that we'd been allocated a social worker, and that he'd phone us next week to arrange our first meeting...

We'd only just been praying in housegroup yesterday evening about the length of time things were taking. Isn't God amazing!

Monday, January 14, 2008

Dr Who expired

I'm not at all happy.
You see, I love Dr Who. And I missed it on Christmas Day. And I didn't set the video to record it. My fault, I know. But all was not lost!

I thought I would step out into the bold new world of TV on the internet, and decided to download the programme (all 600Mb of it) from the BBC iplayer site just before New Year.

3 hours later, and all seemed well. The programme was now on my PC, and available to view until 24 January, at which point it would spontaneously combust or something.

So, this evening, I settled down on the sofa, Mrs D having gone out for a few hours. Dr Who beckoned. I was getting excited (OK - call me sad if you want!).

I opened up the iplayer download manager on the laptop, and clicked on 'watch now'.

Imagine my utter horror, over-powering disappointment and sheer disbelief when I was greeted with the words:

'This programme has expired and will be deleted'

I can still hardly believe it.
No Dr Who for me.
From a quick check of the internet it appears this has been happening a lot with the iplayer. 'Teething problems' according to the BBC.

I'll just have to wait for a repeat.
And console myself with Primeval from last week which has definitely recorded and is waiting to be watched....